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Jr. High Sex
Thought I'd spice up my title to get some looks...you're reading aren't you? Tonight I get the great priviledge of teaching to the jr. high on the idea of sex and dating. I'm filling in and teaching for the jr. high on some of their Wednesday nights until Daniel Bishop gets here and officially becomes the jr. high guy in June. Seriously...what do you say to a bunch of 12 year olds about sex. A strong wind can arouse the guys in the group and some of the girls in the group look like they're 7 and others look like they are 22. In jr. high the last thing in the world I was worried about was sex. Times they are a changing, and yes, I am getting very old. I'm attempting to stay away from the whole "how far is too far thing." Seriously...how many times have you heard that speech in church. I'm betting 37 times for me...how bout you?
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i think one of the greatest things i have recently learned is that for those of us who feel we have gone "too far"...we shouldn't carry shame around about it. if you're a believer there is conviction, of course, but to continue to hold guilt for an act that can be forgiven can be detrimental to one's character and spirit.
on the other side, our christian brothers and sisters can help the situation if we provide a little bit of grace with one another. jr. high and high school are gossip central and most of that is full of trash talking to and/or about others in regards to what so and so may or may not have done.
and people shouldn't feel ashamed for being sexual creatures and wanting to have sex. it's something that should be embraced...yet handled in a healthy, biblical way. yes?
anyway, that's my 2cents.
have fun with the students. :)
when i got the talks from pastors they always talked about "heavy petting" and all that stuff, seeing i hadnt even kissed anyone i had no idea what they were talking about. so i would think, what is wrong with me, i would think... maybe i wasnt normal. any talk that makes a kid feel not normal is bad. does that make any sense? i think at that age they have urges and dont know what they are or what to do. but i do think we need to rethink how we choose to GUILT these kids into repression instead of showing them God's PLAN for Sex, which was, after all created in His image.
i teach junior high - i would say that around fifty percent of my seventh graders are sexually active. i cannot tell you the number of girls that carry condoms "just in case" or the stories i hear about "random hook-ups". girls are actually becoming more "sexual" with each other in public because they found out that guys like it when girls kiss. and i'm not kidding... spend a day on my campus. have some conversations with the kids - it is worse than you ever imagined. with the onset of myspace, mtv, and any other media kids are growing up FAST. look at a kids myspace account and see how "sexual" they are... from my perspective the talk shouldn't be about "how far is too far..." it is more about educating them ABOUT what they are already doing - what are safe activities and what are not. that's my two cents...
Could you come talk with my band?
37! DANG! I think I only got it like 4 times. Wait that counts the once with my dad. Only 3 times at church. Our church was so uptight, no one wanted to say things like "heavy petting". You go Dan! Just forever remember the story of Anthony. "What do you want in a girl?"... "Looks. Nice Body. Big Boobs." BTW, I know you are the old guy, so here's a tip. Much like when I was a "kid" there was a movement to call us "kids" "students" or even "youth" or "young adults". "Junior High" is kinda a dying term. I have been intential in using a new term called "middle schoolers". Semantics baby, aren't they wonderful. Thanks for creating "space" to explore these things.
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